Bye Week Blues

man, if he is breaking his hip just to get out of it, he really must not want to go

No, he wasn't going with us. He does that to stop us from going and leaving him "alone". He's been house bound since the broken hip. We have to do everything for him. Us and the caretakers. It's always something. Covid, coughing spells from CHF, week-long diarrhea, falling and can't get up, and on and on. One time we even had to turn around a half hour into our trip cuz he shit his pants. He knew when we were leaving and timed it so would would be going past his place at about that time.

Earlier this year we planned a family dinner out with my mother-in-law.

Now I've grown used to her negotiating where we go. She'll say things like, "We just ate there.", "I don't like that place.", "I have a taste for Mexican.", "You can only get there by taking a highway and I don't drive highways." The list of excuses for her to reject the original suggestion is endless. She can never go with the flow.

So on this occasion I suggested this Italian place and she immediately said what a great idea it was. I was floored I couldn't believe it.

But then she drops it. She said that the parking lot for the restaurant didn't look safe and that she wanted to park down the street, have us pick her up, and drive her to the restaurant.

She said the parking lot didn't seem safe in that the parking spots didn't look like you could park in them easily.

Here we go. She was so worried that the parking lot didn't look safe that she parked in a Walmart parking lot (half a mile away) instead and we had to pick her up, drive her there, and then drive her back.

This was six months ago or thereabouts. We have not had a family dinner out with her since.

I find you have to do it while they are asleep